3 principles I’ve learned to embrace while raising babies and making art
The number one question i get from fellow mamas when they learn what i do and that i do it with three littles at home is, “okay but how?” 😂 so today I’m highlighting 3 principals I use when structuring my workday around 3 little people’s schedules and needs.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
1. Bring them into the process 🎨 I never want my kids to resent my work. It is incredibly important to me to show them how rewarding it can be to build something from the ground up and watch that dream grow. I do everything I can to make sure they are apart of my creative practice. Some days that means painting with a baby boy wrapped around me or on my hip, sometimes it means pulling Greer into my lap while I work and talking about colors, shapes, and counting objects in whatever I’m working on, sometimes it means letting Nora put the first few strokes on a large abstract piece I’m starting to work on. I work hard to make sure that they know nothing in that room is more important than the love I have for them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2. Give them a sense of belonging ⭐️ this is literally as simple as giving them a space in my workspace. Bringing their little table and chairs in studio and setting them up with some paper, paintbrushes and colored pencils is truly all it takes to make them feel welcome to work along with me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
3. Let the main thing be the main thing 🤱🏼 I truly believe these words my grandpa said constantly are KEY. There is nothing more important than the work I am doing by parenting them. No amount of money, no level of success would ever make up for me failing as a mother. I can’t “ buy back” their love and respect later on in life and I can’t impress them into liking me down the road. These little moments in these hard as heck days are my one shot, and showing them that they are what’s important is everything. My goal is to never let them feel like I chose time working over their emotions, questions or needs.
This is NOT easy (isn’t most of parenting putting your needs and desires second though 😣) but it has taught me to stay on task when i do have time with my work. It’s super hard for me to ever view something I’m excited about as not the most Important thing in the room. But I have had to really work my way into noticing how fast time goes and how big they are getting. Most of the time that realization on its own is enough to make me put down my brush and bring them all in for a show cuddled on the couch when I can tell they need the focused time with me. I can always come back to my creative practice. I may not have the chance to come back to that emotion one of my littles is experiencing in a time where they are learning who to trust. I ALWAYS want them to know mom is a safe and willing space for any discussion.
In my next post I’ll be sharing the practical things I do to keep them busy and some of our favorite “busy toys” so stay tuned for that!